A Less Smelly Alternative

From Theodore Zeldin's Conversation.

I don't think the answer is simply for them to explain what they feel, because so long as they feel it, the same results will follow.  But in conversation feelings are handed back and forth until an intimacy develops, and the other person's concerns become one's own (p. 32).

It's a stinking shame that we normally find it easier just to argue them into submission, isn't it?